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This is Part 4 of your ecourse

"7 Days to take control of your stress 

for good with powerful thought control 

techniques."

Increase Your Confidence & Self Esteem To Reduce Your Stress

The greatest challenges to your confidence come when you're 

facing a situation that looks impossible. When this happens, 

you must tap in to the unseen force of self-assurance so that 

you can press beyond supposed limits. It's not a matter of 

what things look like on the outside -- the key is to recognize 

what you have working on the inside.

Confidence is often the missing link to seeing yourself 

accomplish the impossible. You just have to believe that 

you have what it takes to be successful, and don't back 

down from your capable stance. 

You are in control of your thoughts. If you choose to 

believe you have confidence - that you're energized - 

then you will be. The next time you face a big challenge, 

take a deep breath and fill your heart with the belief 

that you have unlimited energy running through your veins. 

Build your confidence by reflecting on those things you've 

already accomplished. If you did it once, you can certainly 

do it again. 

Today, receive the confidence you deserve--and you'll find 

that you always had it within you.

Don't confuse self-esteem with arrogance: Arrogance is an 

over evaluation of your worth, while self-esteem is a 

healthy opinion of yourself--it's valuing yourself to the 

point that you don't allow other people or negative 

situations and circumstance to influence the way you 

feel about yourself. Until you value yourself, you won't 

value anything, and other people won't value you either. 

After all, your relationship with yourself is the most 

important one you'll ever have. 

When you're filled with self-doubt, give yourself a 

little pep talk. Repeat 

"[Your name], you are great! You are a unique 

individual, a new kind of person the world has 

never known. You were born to do well. You were 

born to succeed. You were born to bless the lives 

of others. You were born to be great, and you 

have what it takes to be great. You are enthusiastic, 

optimistic, and a change-embracer. You are a giver, 

rather than a taker. You are organized. You are a 

hard worker. You are happy. You are a master over 

yourself, you are a leader. You are a big thinker. 

As blessed as you are with all these talents, there 

isn't one thing in the world you can't do. You will 

never fail. [Your name], go out and make today an 

'attitude is everything' day!"

By making this profession every day, you'll experience 

an awesome self-esteem boost! Remember, you are 

priceless--your past is history, and your future is now!

Using daily affirmations

Let Yourself Know How Great You Are

Religious people might actually have a good 

idea. Next time, when you hear the chant of 

monks, the homily in a Catholic Church, the 

singing from the Gregorian, remember that it 

is a way of affirmation of themselves and of 

their faith. And you can use it to affirm 

yourselves.

 People from all walks of life use affirmations 

to keep themselves going. Warriors, merchants, 

students, even politicians. This is because 

affirmations are a surefire way of reminding 

the self of their choices and their goals.

Affirmations are defined as declarations of 

the belief of an existence or truth of a thing. 

This is one of the foundations of self-confidence 

and the way one can deal with the world.

Sometimes we lose track of ourselves. It happens 

at work, taking care of the needs of your wife 

and kids. Or meeting your obligations at church 

or in your workout, sometimes we forget the "why" 

of things.

Most people go through life not setting goals. 

In fact, only three out of a hundred college 

students in the United States set goals. These 3% 

eventually go on to realize their goals and earn 

a higher income than the rest of the 97%. This 

is a startling figure. It means that goals are 

not taken seriously.

People with goals are more confident of themselves 

because they measure themselves against a benchmark. 

This has the effect of letting them know where 

they truly stand against the goals they set. 

It may be understandable that people lose their 

way after they set the goals. This may have been 

a result of having no mechanism to constantly 

affirm their actions. Or there was no method set 

up to affirm the goals they have set, reminding 

them the reason for working long and hard.

When goals are forgotten, time is wasted. And 

the person loses his self-esteem, his confidence, 

and gives up.

It is therefore important to maintain a high 

self-confident attitude that does not depart 

from reality. The role affirmation plays on 

maintaining self-confidence is in the area of 

autosuggestion.

Autosuggestion is a declaration of an 

intention or a goal is stated over and over 

again until the mind of the person accepts 

the statement as truth. This type of affirmation 

is viewed positively and it mobilizes one's 

resources and effort towards the attainment 

of the goals so stated. 

It is also a means of harnessing the power 

of the subconscious in helping achieve goals. 

It is a form of self-hypnosis, usually 

accompanied by having a compelling vision 

with the statement; the person repetitively 

tries to live through the moment ad if it 

already happened.

Sports psychology has made use of autosuggestion 

and visualization to win games and this was proven 

time and again by claims made by athletes. It 

seems that human beings are quite good at mentally 

programming themselves to achieve a specific goal.

However, the opposite effect can also take place. 

One can repetitively place himself in a position

where negative thought repeatedly bombard the 

mind into submission. The brain makes no 

distinction between a positive suggestion 

and a negative suggestion. 

Therefore the wording of the affirmation is 

very important. It is always better to declare 

a statement in a positive sense instead of the 

negative because the mind does not hear any 

negative remarks. 

For example, if one wants to stop smoking, his 

statement should not be "I will not smoke." The 

mind can only perceive and accept it as "I will 

smoke." It would always be better to say, "I will 

exercise daily to be healthy." 

The more positive the affirmation the more powerful 

the effect of the affirmation will have.

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Affirmations must be stated everyday. It should 

the first thing done when one wakes up, before 

work is started, and before one goes to sleep. 

This is programming the mind for success. 

Visualization is executed by seeing a future event 

in as great detail as one can. It must involve all 

the senses, even taste and smell. The objective 

is to create a compelling vision that the mind 

will readily accept as reality. If done correctly, 

the mind will subconsciously work towards the 

fulfillment of that desire.

The mind is a powerful tool for success. Because it 

is like a sponge, one must be careful what one or 

others put in it. Use affirmations and visualizations 

to clean up your mind as well.

Nothing happens easily.  However, employ some of the 

principles outlined here and in no time your self 

confidence will soar!  Best of luck.

Your next lesson is an important one. 

Keep an eye out for it.

This is Part 5 of your ecourse

"7 Days to take control of your stress 

for good with powerful thought control 

techniques."

Challenge: Smile and Try To Think A Negative Thought :-)

Have you ever tried to smile and think a negative thought? 

Usually the result is that one of the feelings will win out. 

Whether it is you will feel better because you smiled or 

that you will eventually feel bad and frown, this is an 

important fact in human psychology.

Humans cannot really hold attention on more than one thought 

at a time. This is the key to mastering oneself in this life.

Victor Frankl was an Austrian psychiatrist who ended up in a 

concentration camp during World War II. He witnessed numerous 

atrocities and was a victim of German experimentation himself. 

However, he observed that people trapped in the camp had 

different ways of dealing with their dire predicament. Some 

people lost the will to live, others went mad. Some men 

turned on their fellow inmates, while some ended their 

lives in suicide. 

There were others, though who turned out quite differently. 

There were men who went from hut to hut, and gave away their 

last piece of bread. They encouraged the men, women, and 

children of the camp to keep on living. They gave them a 

reason to hope for a better future. 

 Why were these men, in the face of overwhelming despair, 

still able to master themselves enough to help others with 

their problems? This is what puzzled Frankl. But even he 

would eventually find out why when he was tortured.

Frankl believes that between stimuli and response lays the 

choice of man to react to any given circumstance. He has 

practiced this in the concentration camps and his sense of 

future vision helped him survive. He realized he had a 

choice, and his choice was to live.

The human animal is the only organism so far known to be 

aware of its own existence. Untrained, this awareness 

does not help him overcome his instincts to react to 

any given situation. Frankl has found out that it is 

possible to use the will to make a choice on how one 

can react.

Other theories also hold true to this tenet. Sales 

people have long practiced that if one smiles long, 

he will eventually feel good about himself. In essence, 

he can make himself feel anything he wants. In essence, 

it is outside-in. 

Smile even if there is no reason to smile. It will 

foster a sense of positivism that drives out negative 

thoughts. This is a two-edged sword. Try to frown and 

you can find yourself too serious to even let people 

near you. Our thoughts are fluid and they are ever in 

one state to the other. 

The challenge is to keep them where you want them.

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Think it's impossible to live happily? Don't think 

success is within the realm of possibility for you? 

All you have to do is make up your mind that your 

world can change and it will. You can do it right now.

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The Buddhists have long recommended breathing methods to 

clear the cobwebs from your everyday life. They believe 

that a sense of detachment and awareness of one's state 

is the key to dealing with unbalanced emotion.

The effect of breathing is that concentrating on the 

breath is a source of steadiness that is much needed 

when one needs a sense of control. Breathing deeply 

and concentrating on it also loosens hold on the ego. 

It supplies the body with more oxygen to fight the 

effects of stress.

The Buddhists sense of detachment lessens the stress of 

responsibility by teaching the practitioner to not be 

concerned on the outcome of a task, but to only enjoy 

the process. Coupled with an emphasis on simplicity, 

compassion, and exercise, the lifestyle Buddhists lead 

is full of activity yet does not affect their outlook 

in life.

The test is still to catch yourself when you are too 

stressed to function well. This is where choice comes 

in. You make the choice to stop work when going on 

will be counter-productive. You choose whether it is 

feasible to commit to a project when you know you 

already have your hands full. Awareness is the gauge 

that tells you when you have too much. Choice is the 

lever that you turn to ease the pressure.

Part of choosing is when to say no. When presented 

with an opportunity. One must ask if the opportunity 

is feasible and if there it time to devote to it? If 

it is not, then there should be no shame in declining. 

Overloading oneself is another sign of poor choice, 

and doesn't do you or the inviting party any lasting 

good.

The key is the awareness to response 

with an appropriate choice.

Recommended reading: Read chapters 6 & 9 of 

the "Instant Stress Management" main manual. 

You will learn important techniques to change you 

thoughts from a negative to a positive frame of 

mind. You can gain control over anxiety, block 

stress and learn to feel good. All by just 

practicing the techniques from chapters 6 & 9

with the 5 or 10 minute meditation training tracks.

Look out for tommorrow's lesson, it's a good one...

This is Part 6 of your ecourse

"7 Days to take control of your stress 

for good with powerful thought control 

techniques."

Power Tip: Listen to your Self Talk - Inferiority and Superiority

Look at you, so fat, so ugly, and so hopeless.  

Whatever will I do with you?

Have you ever told yourself any of these statements?  

Have you ever thought of yourself as not worthy of 

any praise?  Have you ever listened to the way you 

talk to yourself?

Such kinds of thought are the hallmark of a negative 

kind of attitude.   It is self-defeating, it hurts --- 

emotionally, and in the practical sense, engaging in 

some form of it, no matter how little, does not help 

at all.

Have you ever tried doing this?  Instead of a negative 

attitude, pepper the talks you have with yourself with 

positive yet realistic qualities.  They could take the 

form of such statements like:  I may be a size twelve 

now, but with a little effort day by day, maybe I could 

crunch my size down to eleven or ten?  Or eight?  I may 

have made mistakes then, but the present is more 

important than the past.  It is never too late.  

Did it not feel better having to hear such positive 

remarks?  It pays to hear positive statements about 

yourself from yourself.  According to some psychologists, 

the kind of self talk that people subject themselves 

to usually project and create their own emotional 

conditions.  

Being able to feel calmer and a little less worried could 

depend on whatever it is you want to hear yourself say.  

Self talk also has the power to affect one's health and 

well-being.  Stressful events, for example, are best 

handled calmly and with a little less drama.  

With a little self-awareness and a lot of practice in 

focusing on how to best utilize the best out of a 

seemingly not good situation, developing the habit 

of positive self talk is easy as one two three.

The following are possible solutions and actions to make 

that constructive change from feeling and talking bad to 

feeling and talking good.

Focus on the problem

Yes, there are problems.  Yes, it helps to talk about them.  

But basically, problems are not the dominant reality.  

It would help so much for that problem to go away if the 

focus is on solving them and not griping or complaining 

about them.  It is best that one should focus on how they 

want to make the situation a lot better.  

The worst is yet to come

Something that is clearly not happening yet but, for a 

lack of better thing to do or think about, negative self 

talk automatically transform these non-events to already 

bad situations.  While preparing for an exam, negative 

self talk might just say, "I'll fail, definitely, I'll fail."  

Or while getting ready for a meeting, "I'll be a 

disaster, I'll make a fool out of myself and I'll be a disaster."  

It helps to not focus on how you will appear, or how people 

will see you.  Turn your attention beyond yourself, beyond 

your selfish and ego needs and towards the task at hand 

that is a lot bigger than you.  Focusing on your self alone 

is one sure fire way to disaster.  

Remember, not everything is all about you.

Pigeon-holing people is not good

People are unique.  Just like fingerprints, no one is 

exactly alike.  This is what makes them great, good, 

better, best.  Variety is the root of all individuality.  

But, by putting people, and yourself, in boxes and pre-conceived 

notions and not thinking of them as distinct and original,  

enables one to think of others as less while putting yourself 

as someone who is more. 

This denies everyone including yourself the appreciation and 

openness to various opportunities.   

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- Learn how to improve your health just by changing the way 

  you think.

- Rid yourself of fears and a defeatist attitudes.

- Learn how positive thinking can energize you.

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Could-a, would-a, should-a

Sentences that start with any of these words automatically 

set one up for un-called for and totally unnecessary regrets.  

There is no clear quantifiable proof that such kinds of self 

talk will help generate what one wants in life.  What it 

does ensure are feelings of guilt, bitterness and even 

anger of not having done that, made this, said that, etc.

Appreciate the value of choices.  There is power in not 

being able to know the outcome.  It frees one from attachments 

and helps in letting go of expectations, be it good or bad.

All in all, consider self-talk as your soul, body and mind 

talking to you.  Listen from within, your real voice is kind, 

compassionate and knows what is best for you.  All you have 

to do is shut up bad-mouthing yourself and listen to the real 

silent witness within.

Read chapter 7 of the instant stress management manual to 

enhance the intergration of this lesson in your mind.

Your last lesson of this ecourse will arrive tommorrow.

This is Part 7 of your ecourse

"7 Days to take control of your stress 

for good with powerful thought control 

techniques."

How to Catch a Negative Thought (which you were unaware of)

Awareness about oneself has always been 

considered a human ability. With this gift, 

man has managed to put himself as the 

dominant species of the earth.  With his 

mind, he has managed to harness the very 

power of nature to create machines and 

codify systems. 

Right from the first discovery of fire, it 

is in man's very nature to explore and to 

evolve. With no natural weapons or significant 

protection of any kind, it may be a wonder 

how we managed to succeed in evolution. 

There was only one answer. Our natural

gift was our minds.

In the realm of the mind, Greek philosophers 

have encouraged man to aspire for perfection. 

In the Far East, we have striven to master our 

emotions and point the way for our future 

generations. Each generation has brought with 

it great steps in technology and innovation.

Despite this, somehow, we have not done so well 

with our emotions. Awareness is a double-edged 

sword. What happens when man becomes unbalanced 

and therefore unable to judge correctly?

An essential part of the human being is the image 

he has of his self-worth. Knowing precisely what 

a man's self-worth is gives a good indication on 

how far and high he will go in life. When a man's 

self-worth is not well developed, he loses the 

will to make a difference in the world.

Have you ever examined the mental chatter you have 

in your head? Is it positive or negative? Do you 

find yourself in constant doubt? Second-guessing 

yourself when you should have gone for it? Were 

you encouraged when you were young? Did you ever 

know you could do that, but was afraid of failure? 

All these thoughts stop us from making a lot of 

mistakes. Problem is mistakes are the way mankind 

usually learns. Surviving his mistakes makes man 

stronger and wiser in a manner that he never 

forgets. Because we stops ourselves, we don't 

grow as much.

Learn to recognize negative thoughts. 

Here are the signs:

-Automatic. These thoughts seem to come naturally 

to your mind. One would be mistaken to think they 

are the norm though. If children were observed, 

why would they be uninhibited then?

We are all naturally without negative thoughts. 

As children, to be integrated into society meant 

that we have to be trained to be a part of society. 

This meant that measures had to be taken to keep 

us in check at times. 

Unfortunately some parents took to verbal and 

physical punishment as a means to control their 

kids. But the purpose to discipline gets outlived 

and we still remember the shaming incidents we 

went through more than a decade ago. Without 

conscious intervention, we keep the tape running 

over and over again.

-Emotionally charged. We feel strongly about it.

 We are involved with it. Our blood goes pumping 

and our heart rater kicks up more than a notch. 

We can't help it. But are we helpless?

Fortunately, we are not helpless. Though for years 

we have been avoiding the subject, we can choose 

to face the facts and make ourselves better again. 

The first step is to accept that we have this problem.

We can also choose the response we give this kind of 

stimulation. Viktor Frankl, a concentration camp 

internee taught that "between stimulus and response, 

there is a gap." With practice, we can widen this gap

and create a space where we can react in a manner 

we choose to a situation.

-Draining. Negative thoughts do not give energy to 

go on doing things at the same level or makes us 

suddenly lose our enthusiasm.  We become distracted 

and preoccupied where concentration and focus is 

required.

Negative thoughts take energy away from the work you 

do. It is counterproductive and makes you get in the 

way of yourself. If you find yourself in this situation, 

stop. Take a break, and take time to return to your center.

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Self-confidence and a winner's attitude can be yours. 

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You can create the life you really desire and deserve. 

You can live healthier and happier, and with less 

anxiety and tension.

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Find a quiet corner and sit down. Relax and close your 

eyes. Concentrate on breathing naturally through your 

mouth. Take slow deep breaths that go all the way into 

your center. When you find yourself totally on your 

breath, then you can think about things that make you 

happy and excited. 

After a few minutes, you'll feel invigorated and ready 

to do another round. 

Negative thoughts are a product of what happened to 

us in the past. It may well be good advice that we find 

ways to keep it in the past, let go and move on into 

the present and future without any useless baggage.

This was your last lesson. If you have any questions 

feel free to send me an email to:

abbas@instantstressmanagement.com

I am looking forward to any feedback you may be willing 

to provide me with on the "Instant Stress management" system.

How has the information and techniques in this system helped 

you take control of your stress?