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The age-old question: "Why won't he talk to me about it?" has been asked for as long as there have been words and relationships in need of their cathartic power. So why, then, is it that today's women are just as puzzled by the chasm between what their men feel and how much they reveal about those feelings? Criticism of a simplistic "Mars vs. Venus" analysis aside for the moment, the answer is simple. Men, regardless of background or how open they are, do in fact generally communicate differently and less copiously than women. But far from relying on an unshakeable proof as to why, we have only to look at the words and experiences of men themselves. Following are five true-life examples of this:

1. It is not what most boys are brought up to do
Family influence is crucial, and even though his upbringing was atypical, Nigel agrees, "Most boys are not brought up to express themselves and unfortunately they pass that on. I grew up with seven sisters, so I had a head start talking to women. My friends call me Mr. Sensitive because of it, but even I have a hard time opening up sometimes. But maybe they are right. I really enjoy female-orientated deep and meaningful discussions."

2. Men believe actions speak louder than words
Both sexes can be equally ambitious, but men more often obsess over the need to succeed on their own terms. "Goals are all about the individual," says Oscar. "If you hope to achieve them, you have to be able to keep them close to your heart and carry their burden on your own. That's all there is to it. If not, you are just cheating your way through and actually cheapening what you get out of it."

3. Men universally fear appearing weak or being in the wrong
Like Omar, the vast majority of men consider emotion as a sign of weakness at some level and unlike women, consciously or unconsciously shy away from heart-felt discussions for fear of being caught in the wrong. "The world is a tough place and whether it's in the classroom, on the streets, or at work, you eventually learn that big boys don't cry and that sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to keep your mouth shut. At least I did."

4. Just the facts, girls
Men tend to use language to make distinct points, while women prefer to work towards theirs through conversation. Eric admits, "To tell the truth, talking to my girlfriend can be like pulling teeth. On even the simplest subject, we end up going round and round, and all too often, I have found myself finishing her sentences. It usually doesn't go over too well, but hashing and rehashing details and ancient history just seems like a lot of wasted time to me."

5. Men don't get enough support from friends
In the absence of positive family experiences, men's communication skills blossom, or in Christian's case, wither according to the maturity of their relationships. "I'll say it right now. I love my friends and I wouldn't trade them for the world, but I'll never tell them that because I'd probably have to beat them senseless before they would stop acting like it was the first day of gym class. That's just how blokes are."